
How to steady your nerves moments before you compete
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The minutes before a start can feel crowded. You may notice tight shoulders, a clenched jaw, quick thoughts about the result, or an urge to check rivals and equipment again. None of that needs to disappear before you compete. Your immediate job is smaller: notice what is happening, follow one short routine, and begin the first familiar action. Choose where you will start the routine, such as beside your kit, in the changing area, or when you hear the call to get ready.
Begin with one plain label: “This is activation because I care.” Say it silently if other people are nearby. Plant both feet and notice the pressure beneath them. Then take five unhurried breathing cycles. Inhale through your nose for a count of four and exhale for six. Keep each breath gentle rather than pulling in as much air as possible. Let your shoulders stay where they are instead of trying to force them down. Your only task during these five cycles is to count and return when your attention wanders.
If the first breath feels awkward or your mind says the routine is failing, do not restart or grade the attempt. Continue with the next cycle. Use a short instruction: “I lost my place. Feet first. One gentle breath.” If counting itself becomes distracting, pause for one natural breath, then resume at the next number you remember. Tension may still be present after five cycles. Move to the next step anyway, because the routine is meant to organise your attention, not test whether you can become perfectly calm.
Now identify three specific signals in order. First, name one sound without judging it: “Shoes on the floor,” or “Voices behind me.” Second, notice one place where your body meets your kit or clothing: a strap on your shoulder, fabric at your wrist, or your foot inside your shoe. Third, choose one point you can see and rest your attention there briefly. If you cannot use a visual point, choose a second place of physical contact. When the setting is loud or busy, pick the easiest signal to find rather than searching for the perfect one.
A thought about losing, making a mistake, or facing a rival may return while you do this. Answer it once: “I am having a thought about the result.” Then name the point you are returning to: “Back to my feet,” or “Back to the mark in front of me.” If the thought keeps repeating, shorten the response to “Result thought. Back here.” Check whether there is a concrete action you must take before the start. Fix an actual equipment or timing issue once. If there is no action available, return to the sound, contact point, or visible point.
Finish with one task-focused cue chosen before the pressure peaks. “Easy first ten seconds” and “Rhythm and breath” are enough. Avoid adding several instructions at the last moment. Say the cue once, soften your jaw, and make the first familiar movement in your start routine. If the cue suddenly feels wrong, use the simplest physical direction you already know, such as “Eyes forward” or “First movement.” After an interruption, resume with: “Feet, one breath, cue.” You do not need to repeat the entire routine.
Adapt the routine to the conditions you actually have. If you live alone or have no family nearby, write the three steps on a card or phone note before leaving home. You can send a teammate or training partner: “I get tense before starts. If I text ‘Ready,’ please reply ‘Feet, breath, cue.’” With shift work, attach the routine to a repeatable event, such as putting on your kit, rather than a particular time of day. It requires no paid equipment. If you have no private space, do every step silently. If English is not the language that comes most easily under pressure, write the cue in the language that feels clearest. For support, send: “I need to talk about nerves before competition. I am most comfortable speaking [language]. Can we communicate in that language?”
Involve a mental-health professional when the pattern becomes observable outside a single difficult start. Examples include repeatedly leaving warm-ups, avoiding competitions you intended to enter, being unable to follow familiar instructions, losing sleep around events, or carrying the distress into eating, work, school, or relationships. Also make contact if the reaction is becoming more intense from one event to the next or continues long after competition ends. Write down what happened, when it began, what you tried, and what followed. You can send: “Before competitions, I notice [specific signs]. It affects [part of daily life]. I have tried the five breathing cycles, grounding, and one task cue, but [what still happens]. What should I do next?”







